So a number of posts have shown up discussing if men prefer curvy or non curvy woman. Both of these posts are good btw and they are here and here. But what about the other way around. I have always heard that ‘its ok to be big if your a guy’. Personally, I think that that is a load of trollip. But what about it? Does it matter? Do you prefer big guys, skinny guys or muscular guys?
I always see attractive and curvy or large woman on the internet, posts, etc. But when I just googled ‘attractive fat guy’ all it came up with was demeaning pictures of fat guys.
I loves me the big fellas. The taller and the broader the better, with a good layer of upholstery on them.
There is something about a very skinny man that is clinical, but a man with weight on him that is sexual and I don’t feel like I’m going to break him if I leap on him. (which I’m wont to do on occasion.) Women like something to hold on to as well!
Of course it does need to be in proportion, a little skinny guy with a gut out front isn’t appealing!
I have always been attracted to lanky nerdy kind of guys, not real sure why. My dear husband is very lean and I love the way his body looks. I have dated bigger guys in my life, I just seem to be more drawn to the lanky nerdy ones. What can I say, I think nerds are hot
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I hate these types of questions. I know it’s cliche, but I honestly am attracted to individuals, of whatever body type, based on who they are. My fiance is a skinny geek and I think he’s perfect. If he were a fat geek, he’d still be perfect.
Now, if we’re talking Hollywood stars, I have a thing for androgynous pretty boys.
I agree with Julia. I’m pretty much for any body type, so long as the guy truly loves and understands me. I personally find people increasingly more attractive as I get to know them.
But I understand what you are saying too though… BBWs have carved a place for themselves to feel beautiful and sexy (though sometimes even then they get fetishized). I think what needs to happen is 1) more men to join the FA/SA movement, and 2) subsequently carve a place for BHMs (big handsome men?) to shine like BBWs. I personally would be all for seeing more fat men (who weren’t mocked or ridiculed).
Whether you’re a fat woman or a fat man though you’re not considered conventionally sexy, and that’s a sad reflection on our society’s narrow-minded ideal of beauty.
Dolly Ann and Julia I agree with you. It is a self gratifying question to ask. I also agree in that it takes time and you can sometimes become attracted to body types you never found attractive previously. I am starting to accept I am a big guy and not seeing it as this bad ugly thing. I have come to realise that everyone has their own tastes and you will suit some and not others.
The only guys I’ve dated seriously have been “big” guys. But, seriously? If they hadn’t also been smart and funny and kind, having the “right” body type to catch my eye wouldn’t matter very long.
I’ve also dated skinny guys and “average” guys. For me, my perception of a person’s appearance is influenced by my perception of who they are. I’ve known people of both genders who I initially thought attractive, but as I’ve come to know them more, I begin to find them physically unattractive. And the reverse has held true, as well.
There’s more to attraction that measurements or body type. (At least with my particular brain chemistry.)
I just remembered something that you might like.
http://men-in-full.livejournal.com/
It’s a blog of someone who admires the larger man and presents them in a respectful way, as if, you know, fat people deserved respect or something. Tsch.
Enjoy.
Cinderly, yes I agree with you. The people I have fallen for most in my life were NEVER my type when I first met them. I believe that it takes time to truly like someone and if you do it does not matter what the hell they look like. Plus sometimes I find those little imperfections make them perfect.
Natalie, thanks for the tip. I have found it but only realised that it was about someone who admires larger men rather than a typical fat acceptance blog. Uh duh.
I have always been attracted to larger men, and find there is something more passionate about some big guys, particularly those who are accepting of their size. Who wants to be thin, when most of the time your body is suriving on itself, thats why its good to have a bit of beef on your man. Women have a bit of meat naturally more so than men. Its personal at the end of the day. But there is alot of gay sites devoted to big men of various descriptions.